Tips on how to pick your life partner
There is a big difference between finding a man who is fun to date and finding a man that you want to spend the rest of your life with. When that time comes, as it does to most of us, that you feel it is time to settle down, then you need to start considering what it is that actually makes a good life partner, rather than just what makes a good boyfriend. If you are now at that stage in your life and you are looking for Mr Right, here are ten things for you to consider when making your choice:
1. Don’t rush into things
Love can make us blind, so don’t go rushing in and start making commitments, until you have spent plenty of time with a person first. Choosing a life partner is a serious business, so get to know them well before you decide and give yourself a chance to check out how they measure up to the other nine tips that follow this one.
2. Do you have similar interests?
You don’t need to be identical in your likes and dislikes, but, having some shared interests is important, if you are going to spend the rest of your life with the same person. You need to imagine a lifetime with this person and, if you can’t see yourself doing things together, that’s going to be a lifetime, spent in your own company.
3. Can you trust them?
It is absolutely vital that you have one hundred percent trust in the person that you choose to be your life partner. This is not only trusting that they will not be unfaithful to you, it is also trusting them to be able to manage money, trusting them to stand by you under any circumstances and trusting that they will always be there for you, when you need them. Remember that this is a lifelong partnership that you are contemplating.
4. Can you talk easily to them?
Do you find yourself at ease with this person and that you seem to never run out of things to talk about? If yes, then that’s great, because you are going to be spending a lot of time with this individual and, if you can’t talk easily to each other, it’s going to get boring very quickly.
5. Think about how you behave around this person
Think hard about how you feel and how you behave when you are with this person. If you are acting out the part of someone else, just to please them, then this is not something that you will want to keep up for the rest of your life.
6. Does your family like him?
We are not suggesting that you marry to please your family, but it is something to think about. If your family absolutely detests this man then you may have to make some very difficult choices and you should also bear in mind that your family will most likely have only your best interests at heart. Perhaps they have seen something in this man that you haven’t?
7. Do you have the same values and beliefs?
Religious beliefs and moral values are usually very deep rooted and though you may be willing, right now, to push those to one side, will you be happy if you have to compromise on them for the rest of your life?
8. Do you share the same visions?
Do your visions for the future coincide? Consider your ideal picture of what your life will be like in ten, twenty or even thirty years’ time and ask yourself if you see this man in that picture. You may have visions of two children and a house in the country, while he is aiming for a playboy lifestyle.
9. Are you both prepared to make sacrifices?
Strong relationships take a lot of work and a lot of compromises. You may both have to give up things that you do now or want in the future, for the sake of the relationship. Are you both prepared to do that?
10. Always be honest with each other
You both need to be honest with each other and discuss questions like these, before committing and there should be no pretense. The obvious example is the one of children, but there are many other practical things to consider too. Neither of you should pretend to want something that really don’t want, because a lifetime is a heck of a long time.
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