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 Ways to Deal with Criticism of Something You Like

Do you get mad when anyone criticizes your favorite restaurant, sports team, car or computer operating software? It’s not always easy to accept that they have a different opinion, or to express the fact that you disagree, but it’s very possible. Just make sure you stay open-minded, listen to the other person, and learn more about the different perspectives on that place/thing/topic.

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Part1

Engaging with the Criticisizer

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    Make yourself listen even if it hurts. When you’re faced with criticism of something you love, it’s hard to keep a level head, so train yourself to take a deep breath, let it out and really listen to what the person is saying to you.
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    If the person seems likely to engage in further conversation, ask them some questions about how they came to feel the way they do about the thing you find so worthy. Make sure you keep
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    Be interested. Tell the person you are interested in their viewpoint and you’ll definitely look into what they’ve said about your treasured item, group, or organization. This will remind you that while you feel you know all about your favorite thing, there’s just the minute possibility that there’s more to discover about it.
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    Size up your opponent. Determine whether or not the person seems open to hearing any defense of the thing you hold so dear, and if they seem receptive give them your best pitch. Brevity is crucial here, as is careful observation of the other person. If they seem willing to hear more, do some research. If the person begins to argue immediately, demonstrates hostility or utter lack of interest, tell them that you’ll think about what they’ve said and move away from the topic.
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    Appreciate the effort your critics go through to share their perspective. Even if you find no merit in any argument against the thing you love, at least appreciate that someone took the time to talk to you about it.
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    Handle a ‘loss’ as light-heartedly as you can. If you find your opponent simply cannot be persuaded to agree that your thing is the best, try some of the following:

    • You can literally shrug your shoulders, giggle and say “Well I tried.” or “Okay, but you don’t know what you’re missing.” without creating undue hostility.
    • Laugh and tell your opponent “I’m gonna keep working on you.”
    • Ask your opponent, “Well, do you suppose there’s anything we can agree on?” This will allow you to discover if a friendship is possible despite your conflict.
    • Adopt a taunting, playful attitude and tell your opponent “You know I’m right.” Often the best friendships come from one’s ability to simply retain rapport with others despite disagreements.
Part2

Deepening Your Interest

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    Be informed. Be prepared with one or two factual or interesting anecdotal pieces of information to share with them in support of your favored thing (but be quick to stop talking if you find yourself being talked over). If you’ve done your research on the thing you’ve become so attached to, you’ll be able to provide more compelling pitches to use to convert a naysayer.
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    Do more investigative research. As alluded to earlier, there’s always some little tidbit out there about your favorite thing to be discovered. Go online and look up the arguments your opponent presented and see if there is any merit to them. If it truly is something you like very much, your interest need not be limited to already formed opinions; a little research can give you new perspectives and even ideas of how you can help improve the thing you love so much.
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    Be confident and curious. Approach the topic of your favorite thing with confidence and demonstrate curiosity. Share your love for your chosen thing and talk about it openly to others. If there are faults and/or shortcomings that you’ve discovered be prepared to tell them about those things and what is being done to remedy those issues. Those who are curious will be enticed into stimulating conversation and those who are argumentative or disinterested will fall by the wayside.
Part3
Handing the Unreachable Critic
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    Approach the situation slightly differently if you can’t address the critic directly.Seeing the thing you love torn down by a YouTube critic, or reviewer you cannot speak directly to can make you feel quite frustrated. If you cannot convince yourself to shrug it off, there are some steps you can take to deal with the emotions.
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    Pay attention to the obvious. Remind yourself that despite this reviewer’s best attempt to dismiss your favorite thing as unworthy, they haven’t convinced you. That was their goal.
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    Identify the mistakes in their presentation that made them fail to convince you to agree with them. Did they overstate their opinion or repeat themselves? Did their review seem to contain any factual information? Did they present a balanced argument? Did they seem dismissive of those who might disagree with them.
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    Attempt to improve their critique. Create your own video or written review based on their arguments and transform it into one that would likely convince you to turn your back on your favorite thing.
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    Compare your pitch presentation to theirs. Having analyzed their argument, examine your own best pitch and look for common issues. Does your argument seem aggressive or defensive? Does your presentation lack balance? Does your pitch involve a lot of repeating particular points? Does your pitch contain relevant facts?
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    Attempt to improve your pitch. Create an entirely new argument in support of your favored thing and eliminate any of the fails yours had in common with your opponent’s presentation.
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    Present your endorsement. If the YouTuber allows it, post your refined video response to their critique on their channel. If it is a written critique, submit your pitch to that forum for publication.

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