In our society today there is a lot of considerable number of singles,be
it seperated or those who have never been married.Their numbers
contiue to increase as years goes by.Nearly 30% of the American
popultion is single,either unmarried, divorced or widowed.Many single
consider thier plight as a thorn in the flesh rather than a blessing.A
good number of single stuggle a great deal,some signing up for romance
and dating websites,thonking that some how they will able to find a
match.They will invest a great deal of searching for mr or Miss
right.It is amazing it is amazing to say that this searh is so even
eveen among the Christian believers.Many compromise God standard and
marry any man or woman that comes thier way because of the intensity
of the struggle.Some who feel that age is no longer on thier side,can
pay any price just to be out of the single cub..
Friends the first responsibility of maximisng your singlehood is to
define reality.the last is to say thank you.In between the two, the
single person must be ready to face ups and down s of life,before you
become the master of the or the best.That summary is profound,and i
have found it to be true in maximizing my singlehood i find the issue
of maximising singlehood is one of the hardest concept for singles to
grasp.Lets make it more personal i find it hardest to accomplish!For
help with this,i have turned to the bible for both perspective and
assistance.On the fron end,i must define the borders and parameters of
what i want in life and how to achieve it.Such includes the kind of
woman i want,family i want,bussiness and others.At the conclusion, i
must say “thank you”.Whatever the reason is single means a lot and
there are issues to keep in ind an we can consider them one after the
LEARN TO MANAGE YOURSELF:
1.You need to maximize your waiting room of singlehood by knowing who
you are nd what you do best.
2.Increased oppoertunities as a result of advert of the “knowledge
worker’require that you manage yourself and your decisions of what to
do and nt what to do.
3.You need to be able to answer 3 question:What am i strength?How do i
perform?What are my value.If you can answer the three questions,then
you are capable ofof taking challenges and responsibilities.
4.You have to decide the kind of personn you want to be telling
yourself the truth about who you are.
5.When you understand that you cannot manage people you are almost
forced to understand what motivate your partner or team member with
whom you are in relationship with.
6.Dont waste time to put in what was left out rather try to draw out
what is left in.
7.You must take time and devote some resources to finding out your
talent, skills, and also and also using experiences of life of others
for you to succeed in life.
8.If you dont develop the competence in you and learn to manage
thingd, then you will learn to manage things,then you will spend a lot
of time and energy struggling to e successful in life.
Dont join the group of men that live in a fantasy world.Understand
that nothing good comes easy but with prayers and persistence you will
10.The moment you stop developing,be it
mentally,spiritually,emotionally,or physcally, you will notice thta
you will start declinin.You either get better or worse.
BE HONEST ABOUT WHAT YOU WANT
One really great way to know what you want is to speak what you want
to other people.We have to have enough selfcofidence and self love to
really work away from things that we dont want and be bold and brave
enough to ask for what we want without any kind of reservation.Hw
honest are you to your spouse? Have you been able to tell him or her
what you want especially in that marriage or courtship.Have you been
chosen to die in silence and to continousle blame your friends or
parents?How difficult are you finding it are you finding it to say
what you feel and what is right in your relationship?Probably you want
to die before your time because you dont want to help youself by been
honest to speak what you want.friends we have discovered that one of
the ingredients for successful marriage is when we start been honet
with oue partners and our selves about what we wan,practising
authenicity and truth in relationships.it helps to break the barrierin
of fear in marriages and it breed trust in realtionship.
HIGH ALARM OF BREAK UP
The moment you said yes to the gentleman, lady,you signed a contract
with his life that is his character,not just his lo car,reputatin
affluence and influence.Guy the momentshe accepted you or the moment
you said yes to her physique, figure you said yes to the talker in her
you just succeeded in signing up a contract with the terror herself.
Lets begin by knowing what intending couples,singles in courtship
sometimes need is nota BREAK-UP UT A BREAK.We must not undermine the
power of reinforcement.Some times the best way to reinforce is to
seperate oneself.This generation must really come to know and accept
that before we go ahead to talk about break up there is need to state
1.It is very good to have virtuosto have values but overtime, i have
realised that it is most dangerous to judge your partner’s action
using your values as a yardstick.
2.It is important to note that what matters most to you may not be the
same with your partner, so you need to create space for your partner.
3.Your orientation matters as well as your partners’
4.What are your expectations? You should know that goodly expectations
don’t just happen easily. You should also know that there are
challenges before every good expectation. For instance, the moment you
decide not to eat chocolates is the time you get more chocolate offes.
The moment you make up your mind to stick to a partner or rather be
faithful to one partner is the time you suddenly develop numerous
admirers. This is because it’s a fight you must not turn your back on.
REASON WHY BREAK UP IS ON THE INCREASE
Ignorance appears to be the major reason why people fail or
malfunction. HOSEA 4:6 ‘My people perish for lack of
knowledge'(paraphrase).When people are unwilling to learn, discover
what reality really is and be a solution in themselves, there will
certainly be problems. The moment you begin to see yourself as a
solution, you would have gone a distance away from ignorance. When you
put what you know to work, you will be amazed at the effect of your
contribution to the relationship and even to the society at large.
Some of the most popular and common reasons or excuses, peole give for
a break up are under-listed as follows;
1.”I saw a foul text message on his phone and that left me feeling
inadequate. It stole myself worth and values, so i must resorted to
2.”I met a lady in his house.”
3.”He lied to me.
Wow, you begin to say things like ‘after all the love i showed you,
you still had guts to lie to me,I wont take this. Lets break up’. My
dear, when a guy lies to me, it makes me weep. I do not weep because
he betrayed me or he didn’t act well, i weep because if i had given
him that ground of comfort, he wouldn’t have lied to me. By comfort i
mean if i had made my life a home where he felt secured and unashamed
to mess up, he wouldn’t have lied, rather he would learn to be blunt
and sincere irrespective of the ‘act’. If he feels comfortable with
me, he can go as far as telling me of the lady he met at the bus stop
and exchange numbers with not minding the fact that he described her
to be more beautiful than myself. That’s relationship. The essence of a
relationship is to bring out the best in both partners by reason of
their commitment, I mean working hard for the relationship to work.